Your child may have many concerns about what will happen during a hospital stay or surgery. Your child may want to know why the procedure is needed, how long it will take, how uncomfortable it will feel and when he or she can return home. Get all the information you can about your child's procedure to help reassure your child and answer his or her questions. You may accompany your child to most procedures to provide emotional support. Fear of separation is a crucial issue for children, and even the youngest infants are sensitive to their parent's presence.
There is no "right way" for children or families to cope with a procedure or medical event. In general, it's best to:
The timing of discussions about procedures or surgeries will vary depending on your child's age. Pre-school children, for example, do best with information a day or two before the event. Older children will need more time to think things through, talk it over and organize questions.
Children don't need to know what will happen from a medical point of view, but rather what their experience will be like. Try to use neutral, unemotional words and focus on how things will feel, smell, sound and look. They don't need information about procedures that they won't experience directly.
Leaving your child, whether for a brief or more extended period, is an inevitable but often difficult part of hospitalization. You will need breaks and may need to go home or to work. It is helpful to tell your child when you are leaving. Parents may want to slip away unnoticed to avoid upsetting their child but children actually become more upset when they realize their parents have left. Children feel safer and more comfortable when they know what to expect. Leave specific information with your child's nurse about when you will return and how you or a family member can be contacted. Staff is available to discuss how to make your time away easier.
Maintaining a routine similar to your home routine helps your child adjust to a hospital stay. Please let us know any routine that will make you and your child more comfortable.
Child Life Services
Phone: (415) 353-1203
Pediatric Social Work
Phone: (415) 353-2655
Phone: (415) 353-1099
For help finding a doctor or other assistance, contact our Physician Referral Service at (888) 689-UCSF or (888) 689-8273.
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